While you should be extremely excited that your student is attending one of the best public universities in the nation, Cal Poly does face similar challenges as other universities regarding gender based violence. As Cal Poly's first stop resource for sexual assault, dating violence, domestic violence and stalking, Safer is committed to educating students, faculty, and staff members in order to create a proactive community committed to ending violence.
Professional staff at Safer are all California State-Certified Sexual Assault/Domestic Violence Counselors, trained to provide your student with confidential, short-term crisis counseling, emotional support and serve as their advocate on in all university, medical and law enforcement processes.
Talking with your student
Having a conversation with your student regarding sexual assault, relationship violence and stalking can be difficult, but we hope that you can use the tips below, as well as information on our website, as a resource to start the conversation. If you have any questions or would like more information, please do not hesitate to contact us.
- Be open to talking about difficult subjects like sexual assault, intimate partner violence, body image and mental health issues. Let your student know that you are open to talking with them. Listen to what they have to say and withhold judgment.
- Talk to your son or daughter about trusting their instincts. Remind your child to be aware of their surroundings. If they feel uneasy about a situation, remind them it is acceptable to get to a place they feel comfortable by any means necessary.
- Talk to your child about drinking responsibly and knowing their personal limits. Remind them to pay attention to sudden changes in themselves and use the buddy system. Look out for each other and stress the importance of never leaving a friend behind.
- Be sure to remind your student to assert themselves and their personal boundaries when in the dorms or in other social situations. Many people are more concerned about being "polite" instead of being forceful. If something doesn't feel right or their personal boundaries are being violated, it is absolutely okay to be rude and to speak up.
- If something does happens to your child, recognize that it is NEVER their fault. It does not matter how much they have had to drink and it does not matter what they were wearing. It does not matter where they were. The only person at fault is the perpetrator. Placing blame, even unintentionally, on your student could hinder their healing process and may result in them not talking to you in the future.