Stalking is a crime that can either be perpetuated in person or via technological means, known as cyberstalking.
What Do I Do If I'm Being Stalked?
- Make an appointment with a Confidential Advocate to help you develop a Safety Plan.
- If possible, have a phone nearby at all times, preferably one to which the stalker has never had access.
- Vary your routine. Take different routes to work or school, go to different stores, etc.
- Try to travel with others and stay in groups when out.
- Get an unlisted phone number. If possible, keep your old number connected to a voicemail and save all messages left by the stalker/abuser. Please note, that smartphones can be used as a means of stalking by an abuser.
- Do not interact with the person stalking or harassing you.
- Consider obtaining a protective order against the stalker.
- Treat all threats with the same regard and report them to law enforcement if you feel safe doing so.
- Keep a log of all incidents of stalking including: date/time of behavior, what the behavior was, and the names of any witnesses. Retain copies of any texts, messages or emails received from the stalker. Also, when possible, take pictures of the stalking behavior as part of your records. These can be incredibly important to prosecution.
- If you are being followed or are fearful for your immediate safety, consider going to a police station, fire station, emergency room—public areas may deter the stalking behavior.
If you are cyberstalked:
- Send the person a clear, written warning not to contact you again
- If the stalking continues, get in contact with resources that can help you, such as Safer or Lumina Alliance.
- Print out copies of evidence such as emails. Keep a record of the stalking and any contact with police.
- Consider blocking messages from the harasser
- Change your email address
- File a complaint with the person's Internet Service Provider (ISP)
- Never post online profiles or messages with details that could be used to identify or locate you (such as age, sex, address, workplace, phone number, school, or places you hang out)